132: When emotions are high - finding clarity in the middle of divorce
Divorce asks women to make some of the most important decisions of their lives while experiencing some of the strongest emotions they have ever felt.
You may be trying to make choices about your children, home, finances and future while also grieving, feeling betrayed or dealing with an ex who is financially controlling, creating legal conflict or seemingly moving happily on with someone new.
Of course your emotions are heightened.
In this episode, Elisabeth explores how to honour everything you are feeling while creating enough space to access the clarity and wisdom that are still inside you. Emotional regulation isn’t about calming down, becoming less emotional or quietly accepting unacceptable behaviour. It’s about becoming steady enough to choose your response instead of allowing fear, anger or urgency to choose it for you.
In this episode:
- Why heightened emotions during divorce are completely understandable
- What happens when your nervous system interprets uncertainty as danger
- How to avoid making permanent decisions from the first wave of emotion
- Why emotional regulation does not mean passivity
- How to separate the facts from the frightening story your mind is creating
- Why his happiness, new relationship or apparent lack of remorse should not become the measure of your healing
- Practical ways to find clarity when you have been triggered
- How to make decisions your future self will thank you for
You don’t need to eliminate your emotions before you can trust yourself. Your emotions and your wisdom can exist together. The practice is learning how to honour both while making choices that protect the life you are building.
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- I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/workwithme
- You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call
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